Heard lots of things about fostering but not sure what to believe? Read on as we debunk some of the most common myths surrounding foster care.
Myth: Fostering is only for married couples
Reality: Fostering is open to individuals from all walks of life, regardless of marital status, gender, sexual orientation, or age. Single people, cohabiting couples, same-sex couples, and individuals in various relationship statuses can all become foster carers as long as they meet the necessary criteria and can provide a safe, stable, and nurturing environment for children.
Myth: You need your own home to foster
Reality: While having a stable and suitable living environment is important, you do not necessarily need to own your own home to become a foster carer, as long as you have a spare bedroom. Renting accommodation can still meet the requirements for fostering if it provides a safe and comfortable space for the children you care for. Many local authorities allow babies under the age of two to sleep in a cot in your bedroom.
Myth: Foster children are all troubled or difficult
Reality: Foster children come from diverse backgrounds and have a wide range of experiences. While some children may have experienced trauma or challenges in their lives, many are simply in need of temporary care and support due to family circumstances. Foster children are individuals with their own personalities, strengths, and needs, just like any other children.
Myth: Fostering is only for people who can’t have children of their own
Reality: While some foster carers may choose to foster because they cannot have biological children, many others do so simply because they want to make a positive difference in the lives of children and families in need. Fostering is not a replacement for having biological children but rather a unique and rewarding way to expand one’s family and provide care to those who need it.
Myth: Foster children will disrupt your family life
Reality: While fostering does require adjustment and flexibility, it does not necessarily disrupt family life in a negative way. There’s no doubt that fostering comes with its challenges, as does family life in general, but with proper support and preparation foster children can integrate well into foster families and become valued members. Many foster families find that fostering enriches their lives and strengthens family bonds through shared experiences and acts of kindness.
Myth: Fostering is too expensive
Reality: Foster carers receive financial allowances to cover the costs associated with caring for children, including food, clothing, and other essentials, as well as a fee to recognise the important nature of this role. Additionally, carers may be eligible for tax relief and other financial benefits. While fostering does require dedication and resources, it is a financially viable option for many individuals and families.
Myth: Once you become a foster carer, you’re on your own
Reality: Local authorities provide extensive support to foster carers, including training, guidance, and access to professional support services. Foster carers are part of a wider community of carers who offer mutual support and encouragement. Additionally, social workers and other professionals are available to provide assistance and advice whenever needed.
Myth: Foster carers need to be perfect
Reality: It is a misconception that foster carers need to be flawless. There’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ or ‘typical’ foster family. We understand that everyone comes with their own set of strengths and weaknesses. There will be challenges, and you won’t always know the answers, but with the right support and training you can become a capable and confident foster carer, well-equipped to make a real difference in a child’s life.
Still got questions?
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